Sounds like the 49 year old women who list their ages as 34 “to come up in searches.” But at least those women don’t blame it on their friends.

Even if his friends did write the profile and you were okay with his height, would you wanna date someone who can’t string a few interesting sentences together to describe himself on his own?

Um, I’m having a strange sense of deja vous here. Either you posted this on Facebook earlier, I’m psychic, or I read the exact same profile (with the same complaint) on someone else’s blog earlier. Not that that’s surprising or anything — just thinking out loud.

Oh, and I have written profiles for friends before. Enough that I have considered starting a side business for it. Not everyone is as good talking about themselves as you and I are. But it seems kind of weird to admit that in the first exchange.

Nope, didn’t post it on Facebook. Either you’re psychic or this guy is sending girls the same email. Hah, that would funny.

Even if he didn’t have the skill to write his own essays, he could easily figure out how to correct his height in the profile. Jeesh!

Now I’ll say something that will get me in all sorts of hot water, but I’ll say it anyway. All (ok, MOST) Jewish men say that they’re a few inches taller than they really are. The same way that *some* Jewish women list their body type as “slender” when they’re 30 pounds overweight.

Ah, gotta love JDate.

OK, I hate to be the lone dissenter (sp??) but is height a deal breaker for you? He probably knows it is for a lot of girls and did embellish, just like girls do on their weight. His email sounds sweet and if you are only willing to date guys of a certain height, you are ruling out quite a big chunk of Jewish boys. Go out with him.. what do you have to lose?

Not that any advice was solicited on this one, but I’ve gotta agree with Jessica. He was upfront right away and sounds humble and kind of sweet.
I’d give him a chance. But hey, that’s just me.

ok, maybe it’s because I’ve been out of the dating scene for so long that I didn’t find his email strange or suspicious. I thought it was cute.

For those of you wondering, I did respond–three days ago–and he hasn’t read it or responded yet.

Yep, that was my # 1 predicted answer from the prior post. And no, he’s not quite 5′6 either I’m betting! Almost done in by reality, but not quite yet… Cheers & Good Luck! ‘VJ’

i have to agree with the others, give it a chance and wear flats!!

ITA w/Jessica, Rebecca, Laura & Elise. (Did I leave anyone out?) Not only does the height thing not matter, I found a certain charm to his reply. And I can certainly see friends (prob. female; maybe his sister?) helping out w/his profile. My very limited browsing around jdate & other such sites leads me to the conclusion that most of the man either can’t write for sh*t or can’t be bothered to do so.

Heh, I’ll be the lone dissenter and say that while I don’t mind someone else writing his profile, I can’t imagine that he can’t figure out how to fix his height. I think he’s absolutely doing it so he shows up in more searches, which I guess is savvy. However, he gets points for owning up to it right off the bat, I guess.

I feel like short men are the male version of older woman — men can’t get any taller, and women can’t get any younger, both are at a dating disadvantage, and both of them often resort to lying.

I think many of y’all are overreacting. I’m sorry, but nowhere in this post did Hilary say ANYTHING about not going out with him because of his height. In fact, quite the opposite–she said she responded and he hasn’t yet written her back.

Ease up on the poor girl!

I fail to see Anything Wrong with What He Wrote. I agree with the others…He seems Quite Charming. I think he is trying to be Funny. Who Cares How Tall He Is? He told you Upfront! Funny!

I wrote My MOM’s J-Date Profile!. I didn’t think anything of it. It is sort of like, looking over someone’s resume for them and helping them make it Look Better. And, trust me, My MOM needed All The Help She Could Get. (And not because She Can’t Write. Her Great Personality was just not coming through.) I would think, in person, She Could Hold Her Own.

xoxo,
TDR

Uhh… does anyone else besides me see an issue here? He lied about his height — no, wait, let me restate that for the record: He lied about his height. He’s being untruthful about himself even before the first date! He wasn’t upfront, despite what others here may think, and if that was “embellished,” there’s other things in his profile that might be as well. If he doesn’t have a problem lying about himself before he even meets someone from JDate, what’s to keep him from being untruthful about other things later on?

And Dawn — not everyone on JDate lies about their height.

I knew you were one of the straight-up guys, Keith!

I realize I was generalizing. I met my husband on JDate so I don’t have any problems with it.

http://www.onlinedatingedge.com/2008/03/my-jdate-experiment-guys-perspective-on.html

I thought this was interesting

i agree with keith btw, people who lie on a dating profile have already started out a potential relationship with a lie. its a bad pattern to start.

Delurking to weigh in as a fellow tall girl (6 feet) …

I have had plenty of crushes on shorter guys in my day, and in fact my husband is a bit shorter than me, but when the spread is more than an inch or so, in general I’ve found that it freaks *them* out. Most of the men I’ve met don’t want to be that much shorter than their partner.

Maybe it’s different in LA (all the little tycoons with their trophy Amazons), and I applaud anyone who doesn’t let it get in their way, but I wanted to point out that the bias can work both ways, and sometimes when a woman screens for height, it isn’t just because she’s a height snob, but because it doesn’t feel good to have a shorter guy take one look at you and back away with an expression of dismay on his face.

Have to agree with you and others that it was at the very least odd - if somewhat humorous - for this guy’s first message to be a disclaimer about the inaccuracy of his profile!