awww. That must have hurt so much. I dont know much about your non blog life but you are not not not a disapointment!! Feel better.

First of all, whoever told you that you’re a disappointment to them deserves to get their ass kicked. I’ve met you and can honestly say you are one of the most thoughtful people I know. Tell them to suck a fat one. Or I’ll tell them for you.

Glad you had fun at Nanette’s party. I agree, Jami is VERY nice. I’ve known her for basically as long as I can remember. She’s family.

Looking forward to hear how the jdates go. Feh on the NJM. Sorry mom and Uncle Sid. This one sounds like a no-go.

So strange because when I read your blog, I feel like I know you as a great person that does great things. So, when you tell us that someone is telling you that you’re a great disappointment, it totally doesn’t jibe with the picture I have in my head! It sucks to get an e-mail like that and I hope you work it out with whoever said that to you.

I’m in total agreement with above posters…whoever wrote that nasty line, I hope that they regret it and apologize profusely.

Also, I’m proud of your weight loss. Keep up the great work and I know you’ll be going to the spa sooner than you think!

I can’t imagine who would write such a thing let alone actually believe that, but I get that you are hurt by it and that really sucks. Sometimes people say hurtful things only because it makes them feel better about themselves, and hopefully you can recognize that as THEIR problem, not yours. I know, I know, easier said than done.

You know what’s also easier said than done? Losing 9 pounds, and oh! Look! You did that! That is fan-freaking-tastic!

What the??? Why would someone say such a thing??? That’s horrific!

I’m glad you were able to celebrate with us. The flowers look lovely in our living room.

We were sitting in The Sun the entire game today, too! I am now Completely Sunburned (Yes! I was wearing Sunblock! Why does Everyone keep asking me That??!!) But, who cares if I am Burned because My Metsies Won!!

Let’s Go Mets!!!

xoxo,
TDR

Who would say that? Good lord.

It was really nice to meet you - the only disappointment I had was that you didn’t bring me a cupcake. WHERE’S MY CUPCAKE?!?!

Jenn, it’s funny you should say that. I seriously considered bringing cupcakes, but you know, I didn’t want to outdo the birthday cake. So I opted for flowers instead.

I won’t even dignify the “Friday incident” with a comment.

I’m glad that your weekend was so awesome!

Email back to that person that s/he is a terrible disappointment to you for being so thoughtless as to share such a sentiment in an email rather than face to face. Tell him/her you expected more from him/her. Hit “send”. Smile smugly.

thank you again for taking me - the game was great, especially once we moved into the shade. you know - I usually go to one or two games a season and I have YET to see the dodgers win. I guess I’m not THINKING BLUE enough.

When’s the fall Guster show? If I’m not in the middle of some terrible life-sucking event, I will totally go with you!

Also, I am firmly of the opinion that there are no more hurtful words in the English language than “You are a disappointment to me.” I don’t know if the email was out of the blue or part of a continued conversation, but either way it sucks. Rest assured that you’re surrounded by LOTS of people who think you’re anything but a disappointment

Who would say something so mean? You should kick them.

I had fun chatting Saturday night. It was great to meet you finally, though I, too, was hoping for cupcakes.

(And thanks, Nic; you’re VERY nice, too!)

How hurtful! Some of the many reasons I love reading your blog is because you come across as such a giving, loving and fun person. Chin up, you are not a disapointment.

Hilary,
I don’t even know you except from your blog, and I can tell you are so so so NOT a disappointment.
I’m sorry your feelings were hurt.

P.S. for callouses, try Am-Lactin lotion. My dermatologist here in Boston recommended it to help soften up callouses.

I think being told you are a disappointment is one of the worst things you can hear. I know, when I was a kid, and now in fact, I was always so much more scared of disappointing my parents than I was of making them mad. Those are strong words, and I hope that you and the person who said them to you work through this (if you want to), and, most of all, that you feel better.

A wise man once told me . . . If it’s mechanical, it will fail. If it’s human, it will disappoint.

DO NOT receive the disappointment judgment, unless you are seriously disappointed in your behavior yourself! Everyone has issues and agendas, and they want to put them on other people.

I had a couple of super close friends decide I was a horrible person around the same time. I accepted their judgment and decided it MUST be me. Then, I thought again. I searched my heart and my intentions, and they were good.

Somehow, these friends had come to a bad place on their paths. I decided that all things have a season, and some friends are for just a season — even if it was 9 years in one case and 25 years in the other case. I had done the right thing.

I never hear from them anymore. I still tried for a while longer to contact them — very upbeat.

Yeah, I still need some new friends.

Perhaps this person isn’t really someone who deserves your love. Some people place unreasonable expectations on others and expect everyone to live life according to what they want. If you don’t feel you’re a disappointment, then not only is this other person wrong in what they feel, he or she is even worse for saying it. People who love you want to encourage you and make you feel good. This person wants to elevate how he or she feels by making you feel bad. What he/she has done is make you resent him or her and discourage interaction. That isn’t love. It’s pretty much the opposite.

Well, at least your feet are feeling better!

Marjie, AmLactin sounds really good. I will try it.

Another possibility for calluses is a callus shaver (sounds gross, I know), which is a razor blade thing that scrapes off the dead skin. After each use, take the blade out and rinse/dry everything, or the blade will immediately get dull.
Follow that with a very rough pumice/scraper thing. I forget what they are called, but they are in the foot-care section.

Someone said to you:

“You are a terrible disappointment to me.”

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Wow, they really laid into you with brass knuckles.

I’m sorry someone laid into you like that. I hope you didn’t deserve it, and you can brush it off after the initial shock.

If you did deserve it, I hope you and the other person manage to work things out.

Oh thanks, now I outshined the birthday cake, rude!

Anyway I meant you were supposed to bring one cupcake. One. For me. Damn I’m hungry now…