Hilary: what have you got to lose??? He is 6′ tall and what does one OC attorney have to do with a new OC attorney. Besides, this was Uncle Sid’s idea, not mine. You told him memorial day wknd dinner, and I quote, “Sid, if you know any nice single Jewish attorneys, remember me.” Remember that crack??? So, again, I say, What have you got to lose???

MOM

Hilarious!!!! I think that the guy who sent that e-mail has a fabulous sense of humor. And if the single guy’s sense of humor is anything like that, he’s super!

Hey, check out his picture. Have your Mom send him your e-mail address so that you can chat.

My point is… why not give it a shot?

Evidently I’m on the same track as your Mom, at exactly the same time.

ok, so this whole time i’ve read your jdate stories i’ve always thought that you should give them a chance. now that i’m going on jdates myself, i 100% see your point. no chemistry = never gonna happen!

on this case though, i’d agree with your mom. nothing to lose. i’m getting the whole dating sucks thing, believe me, but if you don’t put yourself out there then theres no chance of anything. at the worst, you can have one drink with the guy and ditch out. do it!!

Totally agree with your mom. Nothing to lose at all. Check out the photo, maybe email or talk on the phone and see where it goes from there.

Ditto

I would go for it. Like everyone else has said, you have nothing to lose, and you might even end up having a nice time. There’s no such thing as too many friends…..especially if they are lawyers!

It was Erica Jong who said, “Advice is what we ask for when we already know the answer but wish we didn’t.” Methinks the lady doth protest too much!! You know you should give this guy a chance but you’ve come up with reasons why you shouldn’t — and then you ask us for input (which is always risky!).

You know what you have to do…

wow i guess everyone agrees with mom. hey go for it, make him take you somewhere nice to eat, so you at least get a good meal out of it!

You have absolutely nothing to lose. The worst case scenario is that he totally sucks and in that case you never have to see him again. GO ON 1 DATE with him, if he’s bleh forget him, it really doesnt seem like he could be worse than any of your Jdates…

I say go for it - if it worked out, it would make one great story! (and, if it doesn’t, it will still make a great story!)

Absolutely go for it.

what could it hurt? seriously?

Yup, go for it. Besides, if nothing else it could make for an interesting blog entry. Take one for the team!

I agree with everyone else, give it a chance. Maybe you can just meet him for coffee on the way to SD to visit your family.

Um, not exactly the comments I was hoping for. You guys just want a good post, don’t you?

I agree with everyone else. Seriously, what can one date hurt? You don’t HAVE to marry him.

Also, congrats: you’ve officially turned me into my own mom.

Let’s leave aside the fact that I agree with everyone thus far. There’s an Uncle Sid involved in this matter. Please don’t hurt Uncle Sid. He only wants the best for you, mamele. OK, so that’s my Uncle Sid I’m thinking of. Actually, he was Uncle Ernest, but same thing. In any case, meet him. On a weeknight. For coffee.

You have to go out with him. Anyone with a family that has that kind of a sense of humor merits a date.

I’m sorry - I don’t have any advice here, I just have to laugh and say your family rules. Thank goodness mine don’t live anywhere near me who would set me up with geographically undesirable lawyers.

i agree…just go and see what happens.

I agree with Nanette, take one for the team. Nevermind about how you feel about setups like these.

Not to sound like part of the chorus..but you should at least email with him, or check out his photo. I sincerely doubt he could be much worse than a normal jdate…

And if it makes you feel any better, my family would do the same to me…

haha!!! looks like you have no choice in the matter now!!

What happened? You have all turned on me! Elise, I’m especially disappointed in you!

It would make a cute “how we met” story at the wedding…

Yup, in total agreement with Nanette on this because I love knowing that there will be a good post to come. I’m selfish like that.

Mom 25, Hil 0

Mom…is that you??

That’s funny. For a moment there I could have sworn that was MY mom.

I would at least look at the picture and go from there. Don’t put the cart before the horse.

I’ve reached the age where no one knows any single men with whom to set me up. I’m with Team Give-It-A-Shot. Honestly. At worst, it’s a couple of hours of your life.

I don’t see why you would not go out with him. If Jdate and any other method of meeting men has not worked out thus far, why not try out another method? One drink is no big deal.

Kiss the Frog, Hilary!!!!

Seriously? One of My Best Friends has A Mother, who would not leave her alone about Getting Married. Her Mom and Another Mom worked together, and one day in The Break Room, This Other Mom saw My Friend’s Mom pull out a pic of My Friend to show someone else. The Other Mom (who had A Son who she was hoping would Settle Down soon) said, “Hey! Our Kids should Go Out On A Date!” My Friend was at first Totally Against It — her mom was Meddling and had “The Worst Taste.” Plus, My Friend’s Mom had never even met this guy! But, My Friend ultimately Agreed to meet him Just Once and it turned out, they Totally Hit It Off. And now, they have been Married for Ten Years.

I’d love it if someone offered to fix me up.

I agree, go for it! It’s an opportunity.

First things first - look at the picture and see if it’s a possibility. It’s no riskier than internet dating…

Meanwhile, so cool meeting you earlier tonight, Hilary! I thought about it afterwards and realized that it wasn’t as much like meeting a celeb as it was like meeting a pen-pal — albeit a one-way pen pal. Fun times!

Wow H. That’s the worse shut out SD ever had. Really. And everyone comes out of the wood work to offer an opinion. I just knew Randi would have a crazed but inspirational story to offer too. So yeah, call me supremely selfish, but this would be very blog worthy. Win, lose or draw. So go for it. Cheers & Good Luck! ‘VJ’

with this sort of attitude, you might as well start filling your home with cats now.

Wow…your mom keeps score. I like that about her, I know where you get your wit.

This is exactly how I met my current boyfriend! When my grandma told me about an (also) geographically undesireable candidate, I pretty much went on that first coffee date just to get grandma off my back. Little did I know, he turned out to be the nicest guy ever and happy to drive over 100 miles (one way) each weekend to see me.
He also turned out to be my height (5′8″), which means I never would have given him a second look if I’d met him myself. Would have been my loss though!
Sorry to add to the deluge of mom-supporters, but my vote is for giving it a try.

Nah! Who wants a nice, Jewish, eligible attorney who used to play baseball! So many of those around! How repulsive.

H, don’t go out with him… until you know more about him. My mom recently called to fix me up.

D: Does she know her aunt is trying to fix her up?
M: I don’t know.
D: Do you actually know she’s single? The woman dad fixed me up with had a boyfriend.
M: I don’t think so.
D: You’ve never met her.
M: No. But I know her aunt. She’s very nice.
D: So, if I call, she might not be expecting it.
M: I don’t know.
D: Why did you think I should go out with her?
M: She’s Jewish. She has a masters. She’s a teacher. She’s petite. (read: short)She comes from a nice family.
D: Do you know if I’m looking for any of those things in a woman?
M: Why wouldn’t you be? she’s perfect.

I get a call later.
M: She lives in Santa Barbara. I told her aunt that wasn’t a problem.