Aw, that sucks. I’m so sorry.

Oh no!!!

Have yourself a great YOU weekend instead: catch up on your TIVO, make some yummy cupcakes, stay in PJs all weekend, etc…

(( hugs ))

This is the suckiest news that ever sucked. If I were pregnant I would have said “I’ll stay home Hilary, you go.”

Of course, If I were pregnant I’d be very surprised.

Hilary, I’m so sorry that you have to go through this!

I hope you still treat yourself to a massage and maybe a pedicure in San Diego.

hey hilary, sorry to hear that. I’m going to be in san clemente this weekend with a few folk. if you want to join us at the beach or for dinner or something, just give me a call. we dont have much of an itinerary but I think the plan is lay on beach or while the boys surf and go hike while the boys mountain bike. happy to have you join us.

You said the F’ Word!

H, sorry to here about your plans and your virus… hope you feel better soon.

Oh, crap crap crap. I had strep for…five? months back in ‘98 which finally ended in a tonsillectomy and it both sucks AND blows.

Aw, I am sorry to hear this. Best of luck salvaging your weekend!

That totally sucks. You should definately still do girl time. I’ve never left a comment before, but I’ve been reading your blog for about a month now and thought I would say hi. I live in San Diego and it’s supposed to be a nice weekend, so I hope you have a good time here!!

I missed the San Diego part in my rush to hug you. Enjoy that then …you’ll be healthy for the next girls trip.

Oh NO! I’ll call you later to check on you.

Damn. I have always struggled with throat infections. My tonsils have been gone since 7th grade, they manage to find a place to live. My daughter has struggled with much the same thing — lots of strep.

I’m glad it doesn’t hurt too much, but it broke MY heart to hear you couldn’t go on the long-awaited and planned trip.

Well, I’m very sorry. I know how much you were looking forward this weekend. ITA with what Will said. In fact, when I was pregnant lo unto these many years ago, I excused myself from group plans more than once because someone in the group was in less than 100% health. Have a relaxing weekend in San Diego.

Your Pregnant Friend should have Stayed Home. She is The One At Risk, Not You. If she was Afraid Of Being Infected, it is Her Choice To Make.

xoxo,
TDR

aw so sorry to hear that:( Sending you virtual hugs from the snowy North.

I’m pregnant and I agree with Randi. If she really thought she was at risk, she should have stayed behind.

As a new father, let me disagree.

Once your pregnant friend’s baby comes, she’ll never get to go out again. Well, not never, but not for a long, long time. Her days of footloose, fancy-free weekends are about to come screeching to a halt.

In fact, she’s already struggling with an increasing amount of stuff she can’t do. A total fucking buzzkill to get excluded from yet another activity, and she’s not even the one who got sick.

By contrast, you’ve still got plenty of fun ahead of you. So look at that as a consolation.

I’m so sorry. That really sucks. All I can think of to say is that at least now you won’t have to worry about underpants. Or no underpants. I am sorry.

Hmm, are you guys sharing a room or something? I think since the doctors all felt it was not an issue that perhaps she should have least offered not to go if she was concerned, or kept her distance from you over the weekend. I can not imagine lounging by the pool or out to eat in a crowded restaurant you would be the most contagious person there!

Yeah, all four of us were going to share one room.

I’m feeling better today though–last night I hung out with Julie and today my mom is taking me and Julie and her boys to lunch, then we’re going shopping (retail therapy at its best). And the weather is gorgeous in Del Mar right now.

I’m very sorry to hear that. I have to agree that your pregnant friend should have stayed home, not you. I’m sure you will be able to make up for it soon enough…

I think it was very big of you to tell your friends about your infection. If the baby ever had any health issues, you would feel responsible as well as blamed. I applaud you for completely doing the right thing.

On an unrelated note: Pox, you are missing the point big-time. A husband/baby is preferable to a future filled with girls’ weekends out. I can’t bear it when my married friends complain about their husband/kids and say they envy my freedom. They have the better deal, and we all know it.

I am sorry that you are missing a fun weekend with the girls. I understand your pregnant friend’s concern, but wonder why you’re the one who had to stay home. With all this weird sick stuff, do you get to be in a medical journal?

(My totally jealous side is looking out the window at cold dirty snow, after having just napped for hours due to being sick, and think the fact that you even get to go to San Deigo sounds better than my weekend.)

I totally agree with Ptwelve, Hil…I think you did the right thing by telling your friend that you were under the weather and by offering to stay home if she was concerned. I also think it was great that your friend was honest enough to tell you she was concerned and to do what she felt was best, in this case taking you up on your offer to sit this one out. I don’t think that having her stay home should have even been an option, and it seems to me that that never crossed your mind either.

It was great hanging out last night and lunch today was a lot of fun, too! Sorry my boys wouldn’t sit still! But I guess they’re hyperactivity paid off, they are fast asleep now

It seems to me that those of us with kids view the question differently from those of us without…

Anyone who reads your blog regularly knows how much you were looking forward to this trip. I’m afraid I don’t understand how your pregnant friend can enjoy herself this w/e when she’s excluded you from the fun they’re having. If I were her, I would have either stayed home myelf if i were that concerned, or I would have booked a seperate room at the last minute, and kept a little distance as it were. I’m sorry but I do find her behaviour a little selfish…

You’re a very sweet friend and I hope they spoil you with lots of goodies from the ranch. when they return

Oh no! I’m so sorry you had to miss your so-looked forward-to spa weekend. Hope the retail therapy helped a little.

Oh NO! I, too, was looking forward to reading about your blissed-out spa experience. You so deserve to be pampered and to enjoy quality girl time. And I agree 1000% that Pregnant Friend should have stayed home or booked a separate room or whatever. She (and the cosmic balance of the universe) owes you BIG TIME.

Sorry but I have to comment again… I totally agree that she should have booked a separate room and stayed her distance.. It really is not fair to you. And Pox, I have a little girl, but still would never in a million years suggest someone not join a much anticiapted event for H’s reason. I would have backed out in a heartbeat if I was uncomfortable being around someone.

Wow, sorry to hear all of this. I hope you feel better. What’s really strange is that proteus infections are usually a cause of a uti, not sore throat…
feel better soon!

Does not having tonsils equal not getting a staph infection? I didn’t know they were related!

And ptwelve, your response is interesting — there are wonderful aspects of both the single and the wife-and-mommy life; I’m sorry you feel otherwise!

Sorry!!! I just had my tonsils removed a week and a half ago… it’s been horrible! I have been a carrier of strep for years now and finally got it done. Hope you get better soon! I feel your pain - I have been there too!