Just My Luck

So this weekend was pretty sucky, in that I’m feeling sorry for myself kind of way.

I decided to try to do a bunch of fix-it things around my apartment, then got frustrated when I realized I needed an additional set of hands in order to complete the tasks.

I then logged onto IM and received a message from a guy I dated many moons ago, and haven’t spoken to in years, asking what was new. I told him not much and asked what was new with him. Turns out he got married two months ago. Not really what I wanted to hear.

This of course made me think about The Ex’s recent wedding and caused me to doubt my decision to not marry him after college. Then I reminded myself of the dinner we had a few years ago, and his lovely display of craziness two years ago. I keep reminding myself I made the right decision.

Today was the annual bowling party for all the Big Brothers/Sisters and Little Brothers/Sisters. In the lane adjacent to ours, I noticed a cute Big Brother wearing a Guster t-shirt. (I happened to be wearing my Guster hoodie.) Anyway, the band’s not very popular on the west coast, so I decided to comment on his t-shirt. We chatted a bit while waiting for our turns to bowl and he mentioned Guster’s playing some special show in a few weeks but you can’t purchase tickets, they’re only available through Hillel (or something weird like that) and we exchanged email addresses in case either of us figures out a way to score tickets.

So, after more talking, we discovered he’s from the same city (Bloomfield Hills) I’m from in Detroit! And he used to live down the street from me in Hollywood! And he’s a lawyer! And (obviously) a Big Brother! The more we talk, the more I think, how cool! Finally, as things begin winding down at the party, I ask why he moved to the westside from Hollywood. His answer? “I moved in with my girlfriend.”

Fuck me.

24 Comments »

JAB

October 29th, 2006 | 6:28 pm

Sorry it wasn’t the greatest weekend. I don’t understand why someone who just got married would be sending a message to someone he used to date? That just seems odd. I think the last thing a newlywed would be thinking of is an ex…if I was his wife I’d be pissed.

Just think…next weekend will be so much better since you’ll be spending it at a 4year old’s birthday party! :) I wish I knew some single men to invite, but unfortunately the only single guys will be in preschool!

Talk with you soon, friend!

sassylittlepunkin

October 29th, 2006 | 7:10 pm

for different reasons i’m having the same kind of weekend… i guess the consolation is that it’s just about over, and i won’t have to have this weekend again. small comfort, huh?

Nanette

October 29th, 2006 | 9:36 pm

If it makes you feel any better I’ve spent half my weekend at work. As a matter of fact, I’m here now. :(

The Daily Randi

October 29th, 2006 | 10:46 pm

If it makes you feel any better, My Landlord replaced my Broken refridgerator with a “New” one on Friday! I came home this evening from my weekend away and Guess What? This “New” one is Broken, too! And even worse than The Original Fridge! Now, all my groceries are ruined! Yay!!!

VirginiaGal

October 30th, 2006 | 5:51 am

As my mother would say (yes, I AM turning into her) maybe he has some awesome single friends (like attracts like). I am kicked in the gut on your behalf.

julia

October 30th, 2006 | 7:47 am

First, why would someone married 2 months ago be IM’ing you? You are lucky you are not his wife!

Second, that really does suck with the big bro guy. Nothing positive to say on that one…

Hope you have a good week.

Margaret

October 30th, 2006 | 8:10 am

You had me giddy with expectation for about 2 seconds…. you know, a girlfriend isn’t a wife, sometimes things fall apart.

Dori

October 30th, 2006 | 8:30 am

UGH. I’ve had the same thing happen so many times … *so* frustrating. Next weekend will be better.

Ro

October 30th, 2006 | 8:52 am

Oh man! Really sorry you had a crappy weekend. I hope you have a kick ass week to make up for it.

Stephanie

October 30th, 2006 | 8:58 am

wow i think i had the same weekend. shitty on top of shitty.

Esther Kustanowitz

October 30th, 2006 | 8:58 am

Sorry, Hil. As the artist once said, “Boys are stupid. Throw rocks at them.” Well, not literally, because that’s assault. But figuratively? Chuck them pebbles.
But think, if you’d have married the Ex, you never would have had this community here…a point to ponder.

Nicole

October 30th, 2006 | 9:27 am

Just so you know, Mercury has gone into retrograde so the pull of the Universe is what I’m choosing to blame for my poo of a weekend. Join me in that party, will you? Oh and this might sound strange but in my “can’t sleep, obsess about old flames, what went wrong, blah blah blah” hours last night, I thought of someone awesome to set you up with. Does that make me nuts? Probably.

H

October 30th, 2006 | 9:31 am

Wow, it appears I wasn’t alone in the crap weekend. I hope everyone has a better week too!

And Nicole, work your magic!

Michelle

October 30th, 2006 | 10:02 am

I’ve been there. As VirginiaGal says, perhaps he has some awesome friends! In my life, a married couple of friends kept telling me there were plenty of nice guys out there. I told them if they didn’t introduce one of them to me, I was going to start spending all of my free time with them! They introduced me to my ‘now husband’ a very short time later. The rest, shall we say, is history! Hang in there!! The man in your life is going to be worth the wait!!! :)

Stacey

October 30th, 2006 | 12:16 pm

How disappointing about the guy. :( Hope your week is better.

W

October 30th, 2006 | 4:49 pm

I think guys should have to have pertinent information posted on them somewhere, very visible right at the start. Even if it’s just a quick code, S=single, D=dating, P=psycho, etc.

Dave

October 30th, 2006 | 5:27 pm

Use my new mantra: Beats getting hit by a car.

Michael

October 30th, 2006 | 6:24 pm

I was gonna say something encouraging, but this reminds me of when I wrote another screenplay that once again had the similar story to a spec script that just got sold. And someone reassured me by saying “hey, well at least you have the right ideas, just bad timing.” Yeah, thanks.

Rachel

October 30th, 2006 | 6:52 pm

Ok, this is totally random, as I’ve never read your blog before….however, I stumbled upon it today, when searching for red velvet cupcake recipes. Then I read the heading, and I too am a single Jewish girl in L.A. So I read this post, and coincidentally, I’m coordinating the hillel event with the free Guster concert! So, I can give you all the info. It’s an event called Just For a Day and it’s November 12th. Email me if you’re still interested.
oh…and sucks about that guy, I definitely know the feeling.

sarah

October 30th, 2006 | 8:10 pm

Wow! I don’t know about anyone else, and I’ve never even heard of Guster, but how awesome is that?? A stranger finds your blog and can give you tickets to an event you really wanted to go to!!! I actually find that very exciting!

Dave

October 30th, 2006 | 10:13 pm

There’s no “How I Met” quote from me because my DVR didn’t record it. Is it a rerun?

anne

October 31st, 2006 | 6:46 am

Dave - it was last year’s Halloween episode. Penguin suit up.

Dave

October 31st, 2006 | 6:14 pm

Oh. That was a good one. I always carry a spare costume just in case.

justJENN

November 1st, 2006 | 8:41 pm

Wow. You said, “Fuck me.” To him? Darling, you ARE bold. *wink*

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