I think I dated him once, too. I had a guy when I was in HS (he was in college) who either flaked or called me on Saturday evening to go to a movie. That night.

Men.

Women flake, too. I could give you a long list of ladies who do.

Sorry, Hilary. Personally, I don’t give flakes a second chance. But they taste good in cereal.

What a dope.

Booooo!

What a fucktard. I feel like I wrote this song. Or could at least sing a verse or two.

What the hell is wrong with these guys??

L-O-S-E-R.

Him. Not You.

he sucks. you deserve much better!

I definitely already dated this guy. Twice. He’s rude. But what everyone else said: it’s him, not you. You’re worth infinitely more alone on your couch in sweats.

it’s so easy to say this when it’s not me… but thank goodness you got the flake up front instead of when you get invested. you do deserve SO MUCH BETTER than that. you should thank him for being a poo head up front instead of later on.

Nicole has a good point, but this shit never ceases to amaze me. WHAT is wrong with people??? You just have to keep putting yourself out there at the risk of this kind of thing. One of these days you will be pleasantly surprised.

Yech. I’m sorry to hear that. Hope you did something lovely in lieu of the date.

You’re lucky. I tried to date him when he was a woman, but she flaked on me.

Positive spin time.

If you had written last week that his cancelling due to illness gave you a gut feeling of “flake,” a goodly # of your commenters would have called you out for that. “Give the guy a chance” would probably have been the general sentiment. But your gut was correct. I have spent the greater portion of my adult life trying to a) hear my gut and b) trust it. I’m still working on it.

If your intuition and perception about people is so keen, you are well armed for whatever people, places and things the universe might toss your way. Including Mr. Wonderful when he finally makes his slow-ass way to you. (Perhaps he’s stuck in traffic behind The Bus.)

It’s kind of funny that after dating for so many years, it becomes hard to differentiate a gut feeling from mental illness.

Why don’t you try dating some non-Jews? It seems like you haven’t had much luck with MOT and there’s only a limited pool in this town. Why not widen the net?

Sorry to hear that he flaked, but girls have flaked on me before.

that sucks that he flaked. i’m so sorry. that is never ok.

So sorry for you. You DEF deserve better and you WILL find it!

Any chance he reads this blog and the whole scenario has been constructed for the benefit of his masters thesis in psychology….or maybe sociology? Have fun with _____-ology.

Sorry to hear about that! What a lame-o!! At least this should give you some indication as to what kind of person he is & really, you don’t need that. I can’t stand it when people aren’t straight & upfront. Keep your chin up!!

A blessing in disguise! Trust me!

Wow, this guy reminds me of the types who try to take the day off for the first day of work at a new job. Those types never seem to last long anyway. Let us know if this flake tries to contact you again.