You Know He’s Not Your Beshert When…

Besides the obvious no chemistry:

  1. While he was at the bar getting drinks (dirty vodka martini for you, mango martini for him), a guy walks past and asks if you’re on a blind date.
  2. Within five minutes of sitting down, he asks “Want to see my scar?” You say no, but he still shows it to you anyway.
  3. Then he asks if you have any scars. After replying yes, he asks where it is.
  4. You tell him, “It isn’t visible with clothing on,” in a very non-flirtatious manner. [ed. note: I had a lump removed from my breast about six years ago.] and he continues to ask about the scar. (Weird fascination perhaps?)
  5. He says, at least five times, that he’s looking to marry a rich woman who will support him.
  6. He explains he hasn’t seen his parents or brother in over three years. Because they live on the east coast and it’s an expensive flight.
  7. He laughs. A lot. At his own jokes.
  8. You yawn. A lot. Before 9:00.
  9. During a conversation about hair color, he reaches over the table and touches your hair, then declares it soft.
  10. He asks you out again. You say, “call me.”

So, no chemistry coupled with the above doesn’t really make for a second date.

19 Comments »

annabel lee

June 7th, 2006 | 2:25 pm

Well, then I’m not entirely sure he qualifies as a Nice Guy. The fascination with scars, the acknowledgement that he’s looking for a sugar mama, the lack of personal boundaries (touching your hair) — ugh. Here’s hoping tonight’s phone call is much more promising!

justin

June 7th, 2006 | 3:24 pm

Sounds more like Weird Guy to me.

Stephanie

June 7th, 2006 | 3:41 pm

no chemistry? how could you not fall in love with a total psycho scar fetish guy whos too cheap to visit his family? sounds like a winner to me!

Nanette

June 7th, 2006 | 3:58 pm

Thumbs down for sure. Run far, far away from him.

Randi

June 7th, 2006 | 3:58 pm

Mango Martinis are Really Stupid Drinks.

I’m just saying.

Anne Glamore

June 7th, 2006 | 5:09 pm

Yeah, I think the mango martini was the kicker for me! The rest sounded equally awful, though!

Jason

June 7th, 2006 | 5:13 pm

Um, ewww.

Smoove D

June 7th, 2006 | 6:28 pm

Mango Martini = metrosexual.

Tamara

June 7th, 2006 | 7:34 pm

Hmmm, sounds like you had a “J”Date.
“J”ust lame
“J”ust disappointing
“J”ust another wasted hour
“J”ust another weird Jewish guy
“J”ust really really clear why he’s single
“J”ust another reason to KEEP TRYING!!!!

Good luck hon!

esther

June 7th, 2006 | 8:29 pm

Maybe he works for a major men’s magazine and his editor is making him document his experience doing all the wrong things in a relationship, for an article titled “How to Lose a Girl in Ten Days.”

It could happen. I think I saw it on TV once.

Dori

June 7th, 2006 | 8:44 pm

Oof! At least you’ve got clarity (no wondering about was there/wasn’t there/could there be chemistry). That scar thing–you just couldn’t make it up.

jerebo

June 7th, 2006 | 9:34 pm

So no second date I take it?

denise

June 7th, 2006 | 9:35 pm

Ugh. Weirdo. Has he been on a date before? Ever? I hope tonight’s phone call is (was?) a good one…

Holiday

June 7th, 2006 | 10:39 pm

Oy vey.

Jdate should give you a free month for damages incurred while under the influence of Internet dating.

So, does phone call guy have any cool scars?

H

June 7th, 2006 | 11:14 pm

Jarebo, I think not. And don’t you know any nice Jewish boys for me? :)

elise

June 8th, 2006 | 2:00 am

Ok, well that cleared it up for me! You are over it!

So… I’m coming to CA next Friday, the 16th. I fly into LA sometime in the afternoon and am hoping your MIA sister will be able to put me up for the night. Then I need to get up to SB on the 17th for my sister’s graduation. If I can find a way from SB down to SD on the morning of the 18th then I would LOOOOOOVE to spend father’s day with you guys!!! After that I can be in LA for as long as Bethany can hang out with me and up to SF sometime that week.

Sorry to bore everyone with my travel plans, but can’t seem to get in touch with Bethany!

Tamara

June 8th, 2006 | 7:59 am

To Hil’s friend Elise:

Check out the Franklin Avenue blog (Hilary knows them). They just did a post on taking the train from Glendale (not so far from Hilary’s place actually), up to Santa Barbara. You can definitely take the train down to SD, but it will be shlep. Either way, that blog has a nice day trip if anyone is looking for one that includes a scenic train ride, no driving, and relaxed fun.

elise

June 8th, 2006 | 8:12 am

Thanks Tamara, I’ll definitely check it out!

H

June 8th, 2006 | 8:20 am

Elise…actually…my parents are coming up to LA for Father’s Day (classic car show and Roscoe’s chicken and waffles, AGAIN), so you can just take the train into Union Station or Glendale or Burbank and Beth or I can pick you up.

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