I once met a guy from Brentwood. We totally hit it off. And then he found out I lived in Hollywood he told me he couldn’t date me because he doesn’t like Driving Around And Looking For Parking.

ugh yuck. this weekend will be better babe. promise. {{{hugs}}}

was the movie good at least? i kinda wanted to see that one…

Traffic triage. Cruel but effective. Cheers, ‘VJ’

so you are over it, right?

Second date? What’s that?
(Heck, at this point — first date? What’s that?)
Sorry he’s a dork. Can’t wait to see you tomorrow night. Margaritas have been confirmed!

What a moron and total time-waster.

Randi: Fortunately for me, there’s tons of parking in my neighborhood.

Eve: Eh. It’s not really my kind of movie. And lots of blood. Yuck.

Elise: Sooooo over it. In fact, I was over it before we went out.

AL: Yay for margaritas!

H, that was amusing and fun to read, but I don’t see anything there to eliminate him as dating material. Sure, he isn’t perfect and some of those things are flaws, but every guy has flaws.

Oh, there is a ton of parking in my neighborhood. He just didn’t like to drive around and look for it. I remember accusing him of being a Lazy Dater.

Just asking - Was there a big “L” in the middle of his forehead? You can do better.

I have to agree with dave - not seeing anything that bad there, except maybe the cursing at the driver, which may indicate some deep-seated anger management issues. he’s new to the city, so I’d give him a pass on some of the driving/direction stuff - I know how frustrating it was for me when I moved here after living in ny and london. and you stole The Well, that makes it fair game for future theft. when I first moved here, dating was a great way to discover new bars/restaurants/etc. It helped me explore this city.

Sounds like an asshat!

Calls the day of, instead of the day before as he’d said he would: Strike 1.
Laughs when you suggest doing something that will let you talk, instead of seeing a movie, since it’s only your second date: Strike 2.
Doesn’t pay a single compliment all night: Strike 3.

Dave and Marissa, don’t any of these suggest to you that maybe he’s not worth dating?

I’m going to add one more thing to your list, AL:

Hil doesn’t seem to like him that much anyways: Strike 4

Please tell me that he bought a $5 bag of M&Ms at the concession stand.

What IS it with these guys??? I find they are like this a lot more often than not.

No 3rd date for him! I don’t care how recently he moved here, how bad the traffic is, what a rip off the concession stand is etc, he should save the whining for those who love him unconditionally. And leave it at home when he’s on a date.

hi annabel lee - all of these things seem a little nit-picky to me. I’m bad about making arrangements in advance also and tend to be last minute, so I guess forgiving when I see it in other people. I’m also predisposed to like people who like V for Vendetta - thought it was great. he was probably nervous and thought a movie was a good way to spend some time without too much pressure. and as for the compliment - big deal. I dont think its required on a second date - its a nice-to-have, not a deal breaker, as long as the guy is respectful and kind. are we really so insecure we need validation from strangers?

Marissa, low standards much?

brian - on the contrary. I’ve dated great men and don’t waste my time with the lousy ones,and certainly don’t want hilary to waste her time either. I’m just a little more forgiving of people’s awkwardness and foibles early on. Ijust don’t think its fair to write a guy off because he refused to get directions. isnt that, like, hardwired into the XY gene?

Marissa, I see your point. God knows that I have a few quirks that have caused women to dismiss me before they got to know me. And I have been guilty of dismissing women too early in the “get to know you phase” as well. But this guy sounds like a real jerk. Of course, maybe that’s because I wouldn’t do any of what he did. But I think it is great that you make a conscious effort to look past any initial odd behavior. Marry me?

ha! thanks brian - but I have a boyfriend. one who certainly has his share of quirks as well. 2 years on and I’m still finding new ones.

Hang on a sec. I think everyone is willing to forgive certain quirks about their dates. God knows I’ve done my fair share of forgiving, especially with CL Guy. I think with Midwest Guy, it was just the combination of a LOT of quirks that really turned me off. And well, it just wasn’t there.

Oh believe me, no one should criticize you for being turned off by this guy. These are not quirks he exhibited. I think it was plain rude behavior. The point I made before was that people in general can dismiss others too easily. This is why the terrorists are winning.

Sounds more to me like you didn’t hit it off with him and that caused you to nitpick a bit. If he aint’ for you, he ain’t for you. Move along.

At this point, I’m ready to cross off anyone who just moved to L.A. because I am supremely tired of getting the idea that they are, yes, only dating me so I can “show them around” and then because I’m tired of hearing how great South Bofunk, where they came from, was in comparison to one of the largest, most diverse areas in the world.

AL, none of those suggest he’s not worth dating. If I eliminated all the women with similar quirks, I’d be… Well, wait a minute.

Seriously though, I’d excuse any of those quirks as long as there is chemistry. If there was no chemistry, then H shouldn’t date him.

Yeah, I think H. simply didn’t like him, which caused her to be more irritated by all his quirks/flaws.

Which is perfectly reasonable of course … if there is no chemistry there is not much you can do.

Sorry about the bad date! I am in no way trying to stick up for the guy, but I would like to point out that there are some times when Olympic is much faster than Santa Monica when driving from West LA (especially with the construction). He still had no right to complain, though.

As a resident of Deep South Bofunk, it’s universally agreed that no one wants to drive with me. So let me tell you some of the magical sights ’round here that you’re unlikely to see much in LA:

1.) Hay bales in the backs of hatchbacks. Like Ford Escorts.

2.) Small cars pulling much larger disembodied home cut truck beds. That same 80’s era Ford Escort wagon pulling the bed of fully loaded a 1960’s era F-150. They’re a Ford family you see…

3.) The old reliable, dogs ride in the cabin, kids ride in the truck bed of the pickup gambit. That’s for those chivalrous kindly gents ladies. The mean ones put the wife in the back too.

4.) Large home made wooden boxes in the back of your pick up truck that mean only one thing. You’re moving all your hunting dogs to Bubba’s for the weekend coon hunt.

5.) Soccer moms on the cell, fighting with the kids, wolfing down some Micky D’s coffee while changing lanes. (I know it sounds all too familiar, right?) Now do this at above 90 MPH. No we’re not kidding.

6.) Cows grazing in your utilites/Power Lines right of way.

7.) Chickens all over the roads from truck accidents.

8.) Ditto for couches, lawn furniture, major applicances and ‘manufactured homes’. All day, everyday.

9.) No state police allowed on the Interstates during certain hours. Is it any wonder NASCAR started down south?

10.) Barefoot boys & girls driving with their toes while fully reclined, relaxed like. (OK, this may be common in many places, right?)

And all this are just the sights on the roads down this way. Y’all come back now! Cheers & Good Luck! ‘VJ’

Yeah, that should have been appliances in # 8. No matter. Those mean babies kill people down here! Cheers, ‘VJ’

Foibles. Quirks. Bofunk? I love you guys and your comments.

Here’s the bottom line . . . chemistry rules. You sure can overlook a lot when he looks right, smells right, shows up and gazes longingly in your direction. Okay, I want all eyes up front all the time. (And some grabby hands can be fun.)

Aren’t we all just silly for the chemistry thing? Is it called pheromones?

I think it’s clear that the problem was the number of evidenced quirks in one evening. However, I will also point out that he asked you out to see ‘V for Vendetta’ (according to an earlier post) and you agreed to see it. So I think you have to half-strike that off the list (but not totally gone because he laughed at you which isn’t nice).