disgusting….find a better way to meet guys!!!!!!!!!!!! Gotta be one.

Love,

mom

oh…my…gosh! That’s awful!

I’m HOPING he was just a stupid misspeller and meant to say…

“Why decline… You’re phat!”

As a way of hopefully convincing you to change your mind, implying you’re really cool.

seriously, do not renew your jdate again!!!! (although i think i’ve told you that before)

I don’t get it. I’ve had that attitude expressed to me also. I get an E-mail and decline. Then get attitude back, “You’re not all that.” It’s as if the person has never been turned down before. Do they think everyone wants them? What do they think denegrating you will accomplish? Is that going to sell them as attractive?

somewhere about 6th grade, boys learn that they can generally devastate a girl by calling her fat - no matter her BMI. sadly, some of them just never grow past that mentality.

oh my goodness. that’s amazing. who says things like that, outside of 11 year old boys?

have you guys seen http://www.gofugyourself.com?
so funny! hil, totally site of the week for me

What a bastard. I bet you hardly see his eyes through his moppish hair too, right? I bet he was near bald and a total loser. You have to wonder, who raises these neanderthals? Ugh.

I’ve taken to completely ignoring those generic messages. (and I certainly would ignore a nasty comment from a generic-message writer). Not worth the time worrying about it. There is such satisfaction in hitting the delete button! (Like your site a lot, by the way.)

How odd. I take it he thought you were skinny prior to the rejection?

I love an insulting comment as much as anyone, but as someone who, like you, looked for logic in Batman Begins, I look for logic in my insults.

Let’s create an imaginary woman and name her “Joan.” Joan is overweight. She goes to Jdate to meet someone. Maybe this woman’s weight makes her shy with men at work. Online, she can attract the man with her witty conversation and hopefully later on, he will accept her — whatever her weight. A man emails her, wanting to chat. She’s most definitely going to be all excited to talk with him, unless she thinks there’s something wrong with him — or she’s just not in the mood. But her weight would not be the reason.

If I were on Jdate, and someone “rejected” me, I wouldn’t think the woman is “fat.” I would think she has too many prospects already, that too many men find her attractive, that maybe she’s even a little snooty, or that I’m not good enough or even I’m too “fat” for her.

So, as Dr. Freud might say, when he said “You’re fat,” he was just projecting onto you his own insecurities.

Neil: Did you just call me fat?

Gooch: I think you got it. I was thin. Then I declined his email. Then I was fat. Hmmm.

Elise: I love Go Fug Yourself! I think I already used that as a site of the week! Stay tuned for this week’s!

Happenstance: Thanks! I’ll check your blog out later today.

Uh-oh. I said let’s imagine a woman who actually was overweight named Joan, not you, of course. I don’t know what you look like at all. I was trying to make the point, but… aw, shit… why bother, there goes any chance of us getting married…

And you continue to pay for Jdate because?

No no! My parents offer to pay. We’re always thinking…maybe this time the guy is normal. Or what if…

This is one reason I don’t ever give them the declination (I coined that term a few years ago with a colleague). Just ignore them. Furthermore, if you are so fat, then why did he write to you anyway? What a dork.

OK.. I know there is a difference between the east and west coast, but Jdate is Jdate no matter how you cut it…
Girl run… RUN… do not walk, from Jdate.
You have been warned…
Need more…
http://anonymouscitygirl.blogspot.com/2005/07/best-worst-date.html

OK, so after reading this thread I decided I would try the “declination” on a girl I didn’t want to talk to. Response? One word, “Jerk!”. I’m taking H-Bomb’s advice to ignore from here on.

anotherjewboy, well, at least it’s not just the men. Apparently women can be just as rude. You can always start using what I do now:

Thanks for the kind email, but I don’t think we’re a good match. Good luck in your search!

So far no one has called me fat from that…