Why the First Semester of Sixth Grade Sucked
(Or, Why I Hate We Are The World)

This Friday at noon, when supposedly hundreds of radio stations will be broadcasting We Are The World, I will be in my own personal hell. The song brings back a childhood memory that to this day, still makes me cringe.

When I was 11-years-old, my parents came up with the fabulous idea of moving our very happy and content family from a very familiar suburb of Detroit to an unfamiliar beach city in San Diego. I, being a popular and well-adjusted fifth grader, did not want to move. However, being a child, I didn’t have any say in that decision.

So, on my first day of sixth grade in San Diego, in an attempt to be cool and fit in with the other kids, I decided to wear something that was very fashionable and in style in Detroit–a pair of loud print shorts and a t-shirt that read We Are The World. This was the mid-80s, and the song was at the height of its popularity. And so was the fashion. At least in Detroit. Apparently not so much in San Diego.

I quickly became known as the We Are The World kid, and for months, everywhere I went at school, kids would point at me and sing portions of the song. It was mortifying. It was bad enough being the new kid in elementary school with a Midwest accent who said pop instead of soda; I didn’t need to be made fun of because of a t-shirt. Sadly, the teasing endured for the entire semester. Fortunately, due to reasons totally unrelated to the mockery, I, along with another new student, were transferred to the other local elementary school for the second semester. That’s when life in California began looking up.

I’d like to say the tormenting taught me how to be stronger or stick up for myself. But I don’t know if that would be true. What it did teach me is that tears can, at least for an 11-year-old, seem never-ending and that kids can be horribly cruel.

12 Comments »

Nanette

January 26th, 2005 | 9:48 am


Oh, that makes me sad. I, too, was a target of clothing mockery in the sixth grade. I’m still a little traumatized, but strangely the girls who teased me the most are now my best friends!

drew

January 26th, 2005 | 11:05 am


oh, why did you tell me this?

next time i see you, here’s what you can expect:

But when you’re down and out/
There seems no hope at all/
But if you just believe/
There’s no way we can fall…

you poor thing.

MOM

January 26th, 2005 | 2:31 pm


Honey, it was a rough time…but, you came through it like a real trooper!!!!! Now, let it go! You are bigger than it!! Enjoy the song, “we are the world” and think of the deeper meaning.
Drew, you are tooooooo sweet!!!

Love you,

mom

Pisser

January 26th, 2005 | 3:21 pm


Agh! This reminds me of Heathers and
all the kids wearing the BIG FUN shirts…”Teenage Suicide…Don’t Do It!”

In my school it was Michelle Watkins and her parachute pants at the epicenter of mockery.

Moving was devastating for me, too. I understand that there are good reasons for it, but I think I’ll try not to have to relocate if/when I have kids.

Tamara

January 26th, 2005 | 4:26 pm


Reminds me of the tshirts that said:

FRANKIE SAY

Kristin

January 26th, 2005 | 4:47 pm


Oh, Hilary, I so felt your angst..I went through similar trauma during a pre-teen move.

And, why the hell would a pop be called soda?

JAB

January 26th, 2005 | 6:15 pm


I thought I knew you so well and I had no idea about this traumatic incident. I guess by the time we became best buds in junior high the mocking had stopped.

Sarah

January 26th, 2005 | 6:16 pm


Hilarious! (But not.)

I once wore a New Kids on the Block t-shirt on a field trip to the big city. We went to an art museum. One of the volunteers who lead our tour was an angry college freshman (I assume)…she was in the middle of giving a schpiel about a painting, noticed my shirt, immediately stopped, pointed at me and, very loudly said, “Baaaa! Baaa! You are a sheep!!!”

The sad part of this is that, in my memories, I was only 10 or 11 years old…but probably I was like a senior in high school.

Hilary

January 26th, 2005 | 8:08 pm


JAB: Don’t forget, I went to sixth grade in Del Mar, not Encinitas.

Keith

January 27th, 2005 | 1:13 am


I suppose I shouldn’t mention that somewhere, I still have a copy of We Are the World on vinyl…?

hilary

January 27th, 2005 | 6:34 am


remember those Bennetton rugby shirts? they came in either white/green or white/blue (at first, other colors came out later).
i recall most of the girls in my grade ALL wearing their regby shirts one day - as if they’d all called each other the previous night - and i wasn’t wearing mine. it was oh-so traumatic at the time.
of course, i can laugh about it now. sort of. :p

Kristi

January 27th, 2005 | 6:47 am


I don’t care what anyone says- it’s called POP, not soda!!!

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