Omigosh. That happened tonight, and you are home already. That is weird! I know exactly what it feels like. My Can’t Commit Guy told me “there’s a couple of things about you that won’t work long-term.” Then, he wouldn’t tell me what they are. Sheesh.

One thing is for sure . . . “go with your gut feeling” when you feel weirdness. (A friend gave me that advice when I was anguishing over my guy.)

Have a great trip.

At first I was thinking that he seems like a decent guy for having the respect for you to tell you this in person, but the still wanting to go to the movies immediately afterwards is really weird.

Geri: yeah I was home. But then I went to the movies with a friend, so it was a good night.

Gooch: Just as strange is that he said in an email tonight that he finds it “offensive” that I don’t want to be friends with him. WTF?

Wow. You have had some crazily strange dating experiences!

Maybe he really liked your personality but didn’t feel the chemistry that sparks the long term thing? I give up. Men are bizarre.

Is it the men in LA? I haven’t ever heard of such madness!

Have an excellent time in NY, you deserve it.

Oh honey. Sorry. Come on over, NY will make you feel better!

Oh no! At least he told you what was up, albeit in a bizarre way. I think you are perfectly in the right to say that you have enough friends. I think he was trying to do the right thing and be a nice guy, but he has no idea that it came across as really weird. Sigh. Onto the next one, right?

i love the manipulative touch, “it’s all or nothing with you, huh?” asshole.

it’s simple. he wants to keep you around, but without any commitment on his part. some guys are selfish like that. good thing he revealed himself for what he is before it got further.

sorry you had a crappy experience.

At least he let you know what was up. Still, what an asshat thing to pull on you. A pox on him, and props to you for handling it incredibly cool.

I am so sorry that happened. I just had the same situation happen with me -met a guy on Jdate, had 4 awesome dates, and then this past Thursday-boom-he just wants to be friends… I bursted out laughing and said the same thing you did. I applaud you for being honest with yourself and telling him to turn the car around. I hope you are feeling ok and have an awesome time in NY

Hi all. Yes, I agree that it was nice of him to at least let me know what was up. But what is the deal with wanting to go the movie after that conversation? That is just bizarre!

He probably just really wanted to go to see the movie. Just a guess, but he probably thought that once you had the talk, everything would be just fine because it was just fine on his end. Ridiculous? Yes, but guys don’t always think about the repercussions to their actions.

I am going to part company with your mom on this - sorry Hil’s mom!

But as soon as I read your post where he thought the movies you wanted to rent sounded weird (there’s that word again!) as opposed to the ones he liked (”where things blow up,” wasn’t it?) I figured Unemployed Republican Guy was way too vanilla for you. Sure, I only know you both from your blog, but . . . women’s intuition, dontcha know?

Good think you are over and done with him so you will be free when the right person comes along.

And his comment about being offended, oy. I might have sympathized with him if he’d said “disappointed,” but as it is - good riddance.

“But what is the deal with wanting to go the movie after that conversation? That is just bizarre!”

could be he’s just so completely self-centered that the weirdness of the situation simply didn’t sink in with him.

Damn, it would’ve been better if this guy had been hit by the bus…

Anyway you deserve someone less… weird.

If you give me his address, I’ll make sure he gets the NOTHING of the all or nothing choice.

Pauly dare I ask what that may involve?

I’m sorry, he has no consideration for your feelings. He thinks that he can just announce that he only wants to be friends, and it obvious, he doesn’t care about the way that makes you feel, because he thinks you can still hang out and everything is chill. I think you should take some time to get over him, double the time you dated according to Sex and The City, so maybe 4 weeks, and then be his friend. And remember to rub in his face what he’s missing, and make a point to let him know that he was right, you saw it going no where also. And, that you are dating lots of other people so it’s no biggie. Then find out if he has any cute single jewish friends. That will be the hardest way to hit his ego. Seriously, who does he think he is?

Sorry to inrude into this girlie girlie chit chat but why the screw do you go to his house? He wants to see you, he goes to your place…stop being so needy! He splits? Miss one bus, another on the way…kiss him off and count your blessing…there.
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ouch. I fell of the blog-reading regiment due to work, damn that margarita guy. damn him!!! I’m sorry he used that line on you - that was really manipulative and passive aggressive. I hope you’re doing better now.

Wow, flashback to when my ex broke up with me several years ago! It was Christmas and what do Jews do on Christmas in Chicago? Why, go to the movies. The only thing showing was a “Star Trek” film (ugh). R. came to pick me up and I gave him a belated Chanuka gift - a flannel shirt. He told me it wasn’t “his style”. Then, “We need to talk”. Classic line: “I love you but I’m not IN love with you. I think we should see other people. Anyway, do you still want to go to the movie? So I went - big mistake. He sucked, the movie sucked, and that was the lamest breakup ever!